Love can mean many things to many people. The Greek language has 4 words where we have only 1 and clearly my love of ice-cream or my dog is not the same as my love for my partner. However, I'm sure we're all talking, here, of Love in the purest sense between a man and a woman.
My experience agrees with most of what is written below but I would like to add a few things. 1) Know yourself - If you don't know you're long term desire in life you can't share your life with another. 2) Realize that sharing your life with another is also meant in the sense of "dividing" and sharing. Your time is shared with another and you end up with less for yourself. 3) Your partner must share your basic desire in life. It also is important that they share your fundamental beliefs. 4) A partner cannot be unattractive to you nor unkind.
Everything that you see on television, especially shows such as "Love Connection", is NOT what you should use in finding love. If you have to think about what your act should be as you are seeking love, you're doing it wrong. Just be yourself. Be completely honest and open and be willing to LISTEN. This advice about listening applies to men listening to women. Women are forced to listen to men all the time and most men are boneheads. (I agree and I am a man.)
And when you listen, just listen. Do not come up with a response, a solution, a rebuttal, or an evaluation. Just listen and seek to understand and find how you can agree with what she is saying. This is love: to not judge!
If you want to find love this is the most important advice, Stop Looking for Love! Focus on your life and figure out how to make it everything you want it to be. Work to make your life exactly how you want it to be all by yourself. Make a lot of friends, fill your life with hobbies and interests that you are passionate about. Once you get your life to where it is absolutely perfect just the way it is, when you reach the point where you are happy with your life just the way it is...the person of your dreams will suddenly just show up. A person who is totally happy and doesn't need anyone is incredibly attractive.
Avoid the Rules books. They are evil because they promote being phony and submissive to find someone who is a potential stalker/abuser.
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[Robert Abitbol] If you want to find love this is the most important advice, Stop Looking for Love!
Very true! Learn to love yourself and to enjoy your own company first and when you are done, you will be ready for love; love will come along. Well it will come along easier if you are good looking, I would say!
The Rules books? What are they?